So, be honest. We’re 9 days into 2014. How are you doing with those resolutions?
I’m fascinated with the new year/new you mentality that comes with each January. I’ve been pouring over so many unique ways to process the past year and begin a new one.
I’m in the middle of reading Danielle LaPorte’s book The Desire Map. Danielle writes “What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then we laid out our intentions? What if your most desired feelings consciously informed how you plan your day, your year, your career, your holidays — your life?”
So maybe what we’re chasing aren’t things at all. The pursuit and achievement of goals is less about them and more about the feeling they’ll give us when we get there. So, if you can identify the feelings you’re after, you can meet them in many different ways everyday rather than dedicating your life to achieving the goal. Amazing. I love this.
Resolutions are usually focused on deprivation, restriction or the solo headstrong pursuit to changing what’s wrong with you.
But ultimately, everyone makes resolutions for the same exact reason – to be happier.
So try this – instead of focusing on restricting calories, or getting to the gym 4 days a week or punishing yourself with a goal you don’t really want (deep down), why not focus on being happy?
Let’s be honest – the people out there that are really truly happy ARE healthy. They are connected. They are inspired and inspiring. They are accomplishing things in their life and people want to be around them.
Why? Because when you focus on happy – your whole body responds. It’s the difference of forcing yourself to wake up everyday before the sun comes up to work out vs. feeling inspired to run or walk or get down on the floor and stretch out or jump on a trampoline with your kids.
The end result could be the same, yet one makes you joyful the other feels like work. Joyful movement vs. check-the-box obligation.
These check the box obligations can make you feel like a fake. Even though they came from you and even though you believe if you can just stick with it, you will succeed and be happy, you’re not enjoying the journey. You’re only after achieving the goal.
This year, I put as my top business priority ME.
Time for me to be honest – 2013 was a year of check the box obligation for me. There wasn’t a lot of joyful movement in many areas. And though I continued to work on Inspired Healthy Life, I felt less than inspired and less than healthy this year.
I realized that if I can’t show up for you inspired and healthy than what I give to you won’t be inspired and healthy either.
I know I’m not alone. I know so many (most?) women who don’t have themselves on their priority list at all. I know so many people who put themselves last. And I’m including myself as one of you.
The whole reason why I got into this business in the first place was to pull myself out of the expectations for what my life was supposed to be all about and to instead create a life that works for me and includes what I love.
If you’re a reader of this blog, I know you feel the same way.
I’m not making resolutions this year. Instead, I’ll be working on joyfully moving toward inspired, healthy and happy. I’m lucky enough because of my years as a health coach that I have the tools and strategies to pull myself back to feeling good again. I’ll be blogging about this throughout the year and I hope you’ll be following along and joining forces with me.
As Elizabeth Gilbert so eloquently says: “You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings.”
So, are you coming?